Comment on Dealing with the Loss of a Parent by Kris.
I’m not one to comment usually, but I want to tell you how very sorry I am for your loss. My father passed in 2006. Ours was a complicated relationship. I still have anger towards him but I miss the conversations we had in my adult life. Even though I wasn’t really close to him part of me will always miss him and I’ll miss the idea of what I wanted him to be.
My Mom passed away in June of this year. She would have been 80 in July. When she decided to stop treatments and go into hospice care I was able to travel to see her. We talked about life, death, Judge Judy, and what her wishes were after she was gone. Most importantly to me, I was able to apologize for my rebellious youth and thank her for everything she did for me. I feel so blessed that I was able to have that time with her and that she raised me to be a strong and independent woman. When my brother called to tell me she was gone, I knew before I answered the phone, I just knew. I spent most of that day crying, laughing at some of the funny memories, and accepting condolence calls from friends and family. I still tear up now and then when something reminds me her but I try to focus on the funny memories -she was my best friend. I miss her so much even though I still feel her with me. I still talk to her, too ?
Everyone grieves in their own way and at their own pace. I’ve been told it’s important to feel the emotions and not try to box them away. I try to do that and I think it helps. Hugs to you and I hope you are able to find comfort in your journey